Book of the Month - November 2025
you’re not enough (and that’s okay)
Allie Beth Stuckey - ISBN: 978-0593083840 - 2020
Author:
Allie Beth Stuckey
Allie is a wife and mom of three. She hosts a podcast called Relatable, where she analyzes news, culture, theology, and politics from a Christian, conservative perspective. She is the author of two books: You're Not Enough (& That's Okay) and New York Times BestsellerToxic Empathy . Allie speaks regularly to organizations, churches, and students about the importance of Christian political engagement, defending the Biblical worldview, championing the pro-life cause, and combating the lies of progressivism.
Taken from Alliebethstuckey.com
Brief Synopsis:
From one of the sharpest Christian voices of her generation and host of the podcast Relatable comes a framework for escaping our culture of trendy narcissism - and embracing God instead.
We're told that the key to happiness is self-love. Instagram influencers, mommy bloggers, self-help gurus, and even Christian teachers promise that if we learn to love ourselves, we'll be successful, secure, and complete. But the promise doesn't deliver. Instead of feeling fulfilled, our pursuit of self-love traps us in an exhausting cycle: As we strive for self-acceptance, we become addicted to self-improvement.
The truth is we can't find satisfaction inside ourselves because we are the problem. We struggle with feelings of inadequacy because we are inadequate. Alone, we are not good enough, smart enough, or beautiful enough. We're not enough - period. And that's okay, because God is.
The answer to our insufficiency and insecurity isn't self-love, but God's love. In Jesus, we're offered a way out of our toxic culture of self-love and into a joyful life of relying on him for wisdom, satisfaction, and purpose. We don't have to wonder what it's all about anymore. This is it.
This book isn't about battling your not-enoughness; it's about embracing it. Allie Beth Stuckey, a Christian, conservative new mom, found herself at the dead end of self-love, and she wants to help you combat the false teachings and self-destructive mindsets that got her there. In this book, she uncovers the myths popularized by our self-obsessed culture, reveals where they manifest in politics and the church, and dismantles them with biblical truth and practical wisdom.
Insights:
“If the self is the source of our depression or despair or insecurity or fear, it can’t also be the source of our ultimate fulfillment.”
“Our truth is usually Satan's lie.”
“That’s why I think how we talk about motherhood, how we think about motherhood, and how we act as mothers matters. Motherhood is hard, but it is good. It’s a gift that we have the privilege of stewarding. As much as we can, our attitudes should reflect that, especially when we’re talking about being a mom to other people. Avoid toxic online mom culture that calls kids and toddlers brats and burdens. It may be sarcasm, but it has an effect on how people see parenting and family. Let Christian moms be the first ones to say: “No, as hard as this is, my baby is a blessing, not a burden.”
“While self-love depletes, God's love for us doesn't. He showed us His love by sending Jesus to die for our sins so that we could be forgiven and live forever with Him. Self-love is superficial and temporary. God's love is profound and eternal.”
Should I read it or skip it?
Allie Beth Stuckey’s You’re Not Enough (and That’s Okay) hits a nerve in all the right ways. In a world shouting, “You do you,” she reminds us that the gospel says something far better—you’re not enough, but Jesus is.
Instead of another pep talk about self-love, Stuckey offers real hope. She shows how chasing self-worth apart from Christ always leaves us empty and anxious. But when we turn to Him, we find peace, purpose, and freedom that no amount of self-help can deliver.
What I love most is her tone—it’s bold but kind, honest but hopeful. She uses Scripture, personal stories, and just the right dose of humor to keep things real. It feels like a friend talking you off the ledge of self-dependence and pointing you back to grace.
If you’re tired of trying to be “enough,” this book will help you breathe again. It’s a needed reminder that we don’t have to carry the weight of being our own savior—because we already have One.
